About me

Hi, my name is Merel and I loooove extreme music. I started playing guitar when I was 14/15 years old and after attending my first metal concert (In Flames, Children Of Bodom, Slayer) I knew that’s what I wanted to do and so I did. I basically learned to play guitar by playing in bands.

Purest of Pain was my first band (2008-2018) and we made modern melodic death metal inspired by mostly Scandinavian bands. I literally grew up with this band and it was the highlight of my teen years. The first and last album ‘Solipsis’ was launched thanks to incredible support from the crowdfunding campaign. It was mixed by Mantis Audio and mastered by the Swedish legend Jens Bogren.

In the meantime I started touring the world with awesome bands and experienced musicians (MaYaN (2014 – present), the Gentle Storm (2015), Delain (2014-2019). Even though I really enjoyed playing with these bands I realised that overtime something was missing. I wanted to create my own music and pursue my own dreams. Dear Mother is a result of that.

Dear Mother is a three-piece band (Joey and David) and we agreed that we only want to write and release music we feel passionate about. Writing music has never been this much fun and easy. The first album is expected in July 2021 and you can pre-order it here.

One must always follow your heart and dreams.


GEAR: Vandermeij guitars (6, 7, 8 string), Takamine acoustic guitar, Dunlop Performance+ strings and flow picks
EARLY MUSICAL INSPIRATIONS: Classical music (no opera), EDM (Dutch trance), 00’s metal like Linkin’ Park, Limp Bizkit.
FAVOURITE RELEASES: Linkin Park – Hybrid Theory, Muse – Absolution, Bring Me The Horizon – Sempiternal, Rivals – Damned Soul, Pvris – White Noise, Arch Enemy – Rise of the Tyrant, Dayshell – Nexus, Deftones – Koi No Yokan, Hundredth – RARE, Septicflesh – Communion (and probably many more)
HOBBIES: Traveling (especially national parks), Trekking/hiking, discovering and visiting small local breweries (IPA), being a foodie, Identifying flora and fauna (I’m a hippie yes), Custom Motorcycles (I own a custom Kawasaki W650) and vintage cars , mathematic puzzles, Snowboarding, Climbing, Woodworking